„You have such a nice life, such a nice flat, such a nice husband, so nice kids“. I heard that some people stopped reading our blog, because „it’s not fair that some people are so happy, and some are not’. You know what? Bullshit.
Do you think that leaving my beloved Warsaw, my dear family, my very important friends and nice job, to move to Berlin was an easy decision? Do you think that divorcing (yes, I was married before) was an easy decision? Do you think that for Tom it was easy to say: move in (knowing that I’m moving to Berlin JUST because of him)?
But we took this risk. Of trying, of building something, even while speaking not mine and not his language. Our English was and is not perfect, and even if Poland and Germany are close to each other, there are also loads of cultural differences. But we wanted to try.
Travelling together was one of our first topics with Tom. None of us was before on any longer trip. Not talking about travelling for 6 months with a baby! But we wanted to try.
Last week I was coming back from Warsaw with the girls by train. There was no tickets anymore, so we risked to spend few long hours (with my tired kids) at the corridor of the train. I was a bit afraid but then I remember the post I wrote for you – about travelling by train with kids. And I thought: come on, can’t be that bad. And you know what? Girls were super nice, the controller sold us a cheaper ticket, some people made space for us and we spend lovely few hours making new friends (ok, those friends was Hanna’s job: „hey, who are you? why are you not smiling..? etc). We wanted to try (and to get faster to Tom).
This will sound simple, but I really believe in this trying. My god, in worst case, it will just not work out.
When I was younger, my biggest problem was ambition. I wanted to be the best in things. If I didn’t have a chance to be the best, I didn’t want to try. I was playing the guitar, then my boyfriend started, was much better, and I stopped. Super stupid, no? I’m still fighting with it. But last year I decided that I want to start flying and I went for a pole-dance course (you can see the picture). After not moving for many many years, I have no chance to be a master of the world. But it is so cool to try and to be able to do every month something new. So I’m trying.
The next thing, from the list of things I-want-to-do-in-next-life-so-why-shouldn’t-I-start-now is playing a saxophone. I will try. How many things on such a list do you have? And do you know they will probably never happen if you will not try?
I will try the saxophone but only after our next trip. Next trip… Another try! We always wanted to go as far as possible. AAaaaaaaa!! So we will try! Where? ;)))
Our first book is out!
We have published our first book (for now just in Polish:) about our Central America Trip.
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Have you really heard that “it’s not fair that some people are so happy (YOU), and some are not”??
Sorry, before I can focus on the further text of this post I need to know the answer. ;)
Yes. And that this was a reason of stopping reading our blog…
I never stop being amazed with such reactions.
Anyway, I can only confirm what you say in your text: try it! Funny, how my story is in many ways similar to yours. And also I am planning a great journey right now – who knows, maybe we will see us somewhere on the road. :)
All the best!
Quoting: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”
So, never stop shinning, even if some people get angry or jelous. It is much more the loss if you stop shinning…
♥!
Cudowni jesteście! :-)
Thank You for this post! And, You know, I’m ashamed of that people who express their jealousy in this way You wrote. I really, really like your happiness :-)
Thanks! And we are not always happy, come on, we are normal ;)
So do I :-) but if You suggest that happiness isn’t something normal, I’ll argue :-)
Is it really you on this photo? :) Lovele article <3
Really really, but I thought I will not post more of those picture not to get readers in stupid way :)
Hi Anna, I read yours blog from a few weeks, but this is my first comment:) You know, don’t get me wrong, but I think that a loss of such kind of reader (which is full of jealousy, surely cause he didn’t dare to follow his dreams) it is not a huge loss… Greatings from Switzerland!
Thanks for the first comment :) Yes, on one hand it can be not a huge loss but on another: I dont want to make anybody unhappy.
You know that you can’t make them unhappy by yours happiness :) They are make themselves unhappy by doing what they do or not doing what they want to, but don’t have enough courage to do it – LIKE YOU!
I know :)
Australia?? Nowa Zelandia?? :)
Hmmmmmm. Soon more!
No pewnie że tak jest. Najlepiej narzekać że się nie da i szukać problemów dlaczego nie można czegoś zrobić zamiast na odwrót. Całą masę znam takich ludzi… zawsze przecież można powiedzieć “nie mam czasu na takie rzeczy jak marzenia, co nie;) aaa i BTW Świetna fotka ;)
BTW bardzo dziękuję :)
Bardzo fajny wpis. Myślę, że komentarze o nienawidzeniu waszego bloga mogą trochę wynikać z faktu, że treści, jakie zazwyczaj umieszczacie, są jednak w 99% pozytywne :) I momentami dla niektórych wydają się pewnie trochę nierzeczywiste. Dlatego super, że napisałaś także o tym, co jest trudne w budowaniu własnego szczęścia. Swoją drogą, w nowym numerze WO są dwa świetne teksty na temat tego, że trzeba ryzykować i nie bać się czegoś stracić, żeby potem zyskać jeszcze więcej:)
Oj, źle przeczytałam, nie tyle nienawidzeniu, co “zaprzestaniu czytania”
Może po prostu dla nas trudne to nie znaczy, że niepozytywne :) Zaraz WO do mnie przyjadą, to poczytam!
Love reading your blog posts. So full of life and love. There will always be jealous people and as long as you don’t let them get to you, you will be fine. Can’t wait to read about your next adventures.
Greetings from Chicago
Promise to publish a lot! greetings to Chicago!!
First comment from me too. It’s so true – what people don’t realise is that you create the chances in your life. Sure, there is an element of luck. But just an element. You have created this warm, loving, exciting life for yourself and you should be very proud of it! Love reading the blog and hearing about your adventures and your beautiful family. Never stop trying!
Thank you! Happy goes lucky ;)
I discovered your blog thanks to a magazine in and since then I am following your adventures from time to time. This time I decided to comment. You really shouldn’t waste your precious time and energy for that category of people. Dziękuję for all the inspiring posts and the love you constantly share. I can’t wait to ready about your new adventure! Good luck and greetings from Trieste! :)
siete i benvenuti! :))
Well, I’ve learnt that happiness is more about the state of our mind than some objective external factors (such a wise and scientific-like sentence :D). I am have the same thing as you, I’m over-achiever. I always want more and to be better. It has positive sites as this tendency makes me develop all the time. And some dark sites as well (it is hard to be satisfied). I’ve learnt to accept this and I am trying to to be as happy and fulfill as possible.
…and about those accusation that you are to happy. Well you have every right to be! Also, blogs are for sharing nice and inspiring things and not for grumbling :). Kisses
Yep! Sometimes hard to be satifsfied! But when I read comments of readers like this – I am :) Thanks!
I love the “just do it” attitude! I am hoping for our family to try and experience a lot of new things as well.
If you want, you will do it!
ogladalam to dzis i tak sobie o Was myslalam…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoxqZWvt7g8
pozdrawiam!
dobre!! dzięki!
Just like someone commenting before me, I discovered your blog not so long time ago and it’s also my first comment :) I would like to say that finding and reading your posts is very inspiring! I do understand people who find it unfair, but luckily I’m not one of them. It was always my dream to travel so when I finished high school in Poland I choose to study abroad, now it’s fourth year and third country I live in. There was Finland, Brazil and now Portugal. Next month I’m moving again, this time to Norway, I’m going to stay with my wonderful boyfriend, who isn’t Polish or Norwegian and we also don’t have a common language but English. I think making the decision to settle down a little, maybe even unpack all the bags, was much more difficult than moving to another continent by myself. Hopefully when one day I’ll show this blog to my boyfriend, he will find it as inspiring as me and we will make our own competing one :)
Greetings from Lisbon.
;)) Good luck in Norway!